Here we go…..

I have been promising myself that I would create a creative outlet to vent, discuss, advise and just generally allow a space to exist whereby I have a dialect outside my head of some sort of adult content….

Even though this content will probably not be about anything other then my kids I believe that it will help me and hopefully create a space to allow other moms to discuss our lives with our kids. I also firmly believe that if there is one thing that truly bonds us mothers is that no matter what class, colour, creed or financial status you hold or have raising a child begets us the same or very similar challenges!

So here we go……

Why do I support local?

There has been so much hype of late around supporting local? Local music, local TV, local brands in all the many forms. This got me thinking as to what has changed, how come everyone is on this buzz?

Firstly I considered quality, and lets be straight up honest here its not for quality alone because many international brands have mass produced high quality items at time cheaper then local brands especially where clothing is considered.

Next consideration is style and variety, again there are chain stores that hold larger selections of trendy and market related varieties across all sectors.

So this pretty much leaves me with SUPPORT and COMMUNITY. Everyone regardless of what many will argue love to be a part of something, a party of a community, part of a movement or a cause. Its human nature to seek out companionship. And this my friends is what I have come to realize, we support local because its where we belong, where we make friends, where we connect and find support!

Any product that you market will always succeed when you touch the heart and soul of your target market and is it not so much easier to reach out to your neighbor, your fellow parents experiencing the same issues that you are on a daily.

South Africa has long been the target of much negativity and like a phoenix our local brands have risen from the ashes, choosing rather to celebrate our talents and our strengths. With awesome music, actors, businessmen and woman and lets not forget why we are here, our FASHION! Our proudly South African Mama’s who are making incredible clothing, toys, furniture and much more! Quality that you cannot imagine can come out of someones garage or loft room, styles that you wouldn’t believe a Mama could still have imagination left to come up with, after bathing kids, cooking and cleaning! Service deserving a golden award of excellence after a day of being Mother, Chef, Driver and Wife, she still has time to smile and send a heartwarming email to thank you for your support!

As woman, as mothers we support local to be a part of that community the one that you can rely on, meet up with for a coffee and while you there buy your kids next gorgeous outfit! Woman find ways to multi-task so whats better then seeing a friend and shopping while your kids have a playdate?

It warms my heart when I see the community that has risen from the brands in South Africa and makes me super proud to be a Mommy here, even inspires me to find ways to contribute to this market, like what can I make or create that our kids need?

So next time you see a new Mommy store on Instagram or Facebook give her a like or a follow and remember her when you need to buy that toy, jacket or shoes, because you are not just buying that item from a store you are buying a part of someones dream and that’s just MAGICAL….

Travelling with Gremlins

So for the April school holidays my Mom asked us to come and visit…  Durban…..we live in Cape Town….

This obviously meant that we need to take a flight, which may I add was only Dakotas 2nd time flying. Que Dakota who is a boisterous and highly energetic 1 and half year old little girl. These days  flights cost an arm and leg so here was my dilemma, do we fly at the cheapest rate or do we fly in accordance with my child’s sleeping patterns? I don’t know how many of you moms have experienced a live wire kid on a plane its truly one of the most stressful things to live through, so I bit the bullet and bought the pricey ticket because I am pretty sure nobody would approve of me downing small size bottles of whiskey while my child runs screaming through the plane at high altitude!

Now on the day of the flight both there and back I start sedating myself not my child as I am more likely to loose my shit then she is! And this time round I must tell you that I had a pleasant experience both ways with my child BUT not so much with the airline! There is nothing more annoying when airlines are inconsistent in their policy or when they look at you like an alien when your 6 year old bought 6 toys guns in Durban and wants to bring them home, or when you dare take a car seat with you I mean who believes in safety!!

The Mango assistant can be really glad that I have already sedated myself as he started on about toy guns not being allowed to be checked in your luggage, and then telling me that you have to use your luggage weight allowance to book your car seat in! REALLY!! I mean have any of the people who make these rules or enforce them EVER traveled alone with TWO kids under the age of 7!!! So to be clear you may carry the car seat with you to the plane and check it in at the door for FREE but you need to pay R250 (8kg car seat) to book it in. So lets get this image clear, I need to carry an toddler, hold a 6 year olds hand while he carries his travel bag, and I am carrying my laptop bag (I had to work), the baby bag (she had to poop) and my handbag (someone has to pay for stuff). I was livid to say the least, and all this while the agent discusses his personal plans for the weekend with the girl next to him!

So surprise surprise my anticipated point of a breakdown was my small child but instead the gremlin turned out to be the Mango assistant! And to add Dakota was an angel fell asleep, slept through the two hour flight and when she woke up smiled and waved at all the passengers, Carter is always an angel, he’s a bit of a seasoned traveler having been everywhere back and forth with me for the first 3 years of his life. Oh and the IPAD, he gets engrossed in a movie for two hours leaving me stress free! I know many moms say that’s not good but one thing being a mom has taught me we all do what we need to do to get by……

Will you fight for your child?

So everyone across South Africa has now seen the infamous Spur video wherein a random father and mother get involved in a huge public argument regarding their children. The jest  of the matter was the kids landed in a scuffle shall we say and then all hell broke loose from there, its not within my realm to comment further.

BUT this whole debacle got me thinking about us as parents and how far we will go to defend and protect our children, we have often used the terms I would kill for my child, but would you? Should you? Could you?

Its never a nice feeling to see your child hurt no matter what the cause of their pain is, but upon pondering this scenario and also conjuring images of me hurling grown parents around like a scene out of Ben Hur because lets face it hurling their little brats around is NOT kosher no matter what they did, I thought about the aftermath….

We are truly the  real life example to our kids of how they will deal with conflict and aggression, and I will put my hand up that I have on more then one occasion flipped someone the bird and sworn profanities at them while driving and YES my kids were in the car! So while I have this experience to base my FUTURE conduct on I would say that we should think long and hard about our next move, think about what we are teaching our kids through our own actions.

That does not go to say that we should walk away and not confront it but rather how we confront it because in this fast pace world filled with every sort of challenge our kids will face great opposition, true anger and God forbid they might fall victim to violence. So we need to equip them to stand up themselves with dignity, with compassion and above all else with respect.

Its such a tough business raising kids the RIGHT way because the only way to get it RIGHT is through EXPERIENCE and whats that saying ‘Hindsight is a bitch!’